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On average, across cultures the most desirable traits are: Kind and understanding Intelligent Exciting personality Healthy Emotionally stable and mature Dependable character Pleasing disposition Good looks (ranked higher by males) Good financial prospect (ranked higher by females) Virginity (ranked higher by males) Taken from survey data (Buss 1994, 1995).

What college students want most in their partner: Kind and understanding Exciting personality Intelligent Physically attractive (more important for men than women) Healthy Easygoing Creative Wants children College graduate Good earning capacity (more important for women than men) Taken from survey data (Buss 1994, 1995) of unmarried college students.

Importance of love in who you marry differs across cultures. Love is: #1 in the United States #3 in Iran, with education, intelligence, ambitino and chastity (virginity) being more important. #4 in Nigeria, with good health, refinement/neatness, desire for home and children being more important. #6 in China, with good health, chastity (virginity), and homemaker being ranked higher. #7 in South Africa-Zulu, with such things as emotionally stable, mature, dependable being ranked higher than love. In nearly every culture, women are more stringent in their standards acroos a wide range of characteristics. This, some anthropologists say, is because they spend more time in caring for the children.